How to Beat Performance Anxiety

Brooks (2013) conducted a series of studies looking at performance anxiety across different settings including giving a speech, singing karaoke and completing a maths test.
The studies found that individuals who “reappraised” their anxiety into thoughts of excitement, performed better than people who told themselves to remain calm.
Trying to deal with pre-performance anxiety?  Try re-framing your feelings of anxiety into thoughts of excitement!  Try some positive self talk with simple phrases like “lets get excited!” or “I can’t wait to do this!!”  This is more effective than attempting to calm down.
Also – remember, we have an optimum level of anxiety that helps us to perform better! A little bit of nerves may actually help you!!  (Just don’t tell yourself to calm down!!)
What techniques do you use to beat pre-performance anxiety?  Would you try this technique?mindy1
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How you respond to your baby can predict academic success years later

A new study by Raby et al (2014) has found that sensitive parenting, including responding to a child’s signals quickly and appropriately during the first three years of their life can lead to increased academic performance and better outcomes, even into the child’s 20’s and 30’s.

Researcher’s observed parents and babies during the first three years of the babies’ lives.  Following this, standardised academic tests were administered.  Results showed that the children who received sensitive parenting, showed increased academic performance.

This highlights the importance of interactions between parents and babies in the early years of their childhood!!

What’s your parenting style?

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New study claims parents may contribute to narcissism in children

Everyone seems to be talking about a new study by Brummelman et al (2015), conducted in the Netherlands, which showed that children who are told that they are special and superior to other children are more likely to become narcissists.  In turn, parents of narcissistic children may over-value the abilities of their children and make claims about the children’s abilities that may not be true.

The study calls for parental training, to encourage parents to develop healthy self esteem in children through parental warmth and encouragement, rather than inflating the children’s egos!!  For example, children who are frequently told they are loved are more likely to have high self esteem, but not narcissism.

The researchers state:

“People with high self-esteem think they’re as good as others, whereas narcissists think they’re better than others”

Narcissism has it’s roots in genetics and temperamental traits, but this study shows that narcism may also be shaped by early socialisation experiences.

With this in mind, how do you foster healthy self esteem in your kids?  Here are a few of my suggestions!!!

  • Provide praise for specific accomplishments and achievements, such as working hard on a project or practising a skill
  • Reinforce task mastery rather than task outcome – for example, if your child practises tennis every week but loses his game on the weekend, reinforce the process of mastering the skill of the game through each practice session, more so than the outcome of the game
  • Reward your child for prosocial behaviour such as sharing or helping others
  • Model fairness through your own behaviour

What would you try?

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How to use your signature strengths

Are you looking for ways to boost your sense of well-being?

Research shows that people who are aware of their strengths and who regularly use and apply those strengths, have greater levels of well-being (Govindi & Linley, 2007).

Do you know what your signature strengths are?

Try the Values in Action questionnaire online for free, to find out what your top 5 strengths are!!  Once you identify your strengths, ask yourself the following questions:

How can I use one or more of my strengths on a daily basis?

How can I apply my strengths to one of my work tasks today?

 

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References

Govindi, R. & Linley, A (2007) Strengths use, self concordance and well-being:  Implications for Coaching and Coaching Psychologists.  International Coaching Psychology Review, 2(2), 143-154

Broaden and build with positive emotions

Positive emotions do more than make us feel good – they in fact help to increase our intellectual, social and physical resources!

The Broaden and Build Theory (Fredrikson, 2001) states that positive emotions such as joy, interest, contentment, pride and love increase our repertoire of thoughts and behaviours.  For example, the emotion of interest increases the urge to explore and take in new information, and the emotion of joy increases our urge to play and be creative.  The emotion of love increases our urge to savour and share experiences with our loved ones.

Negative emotions on the other hand, narrow our range of potential strategies for action – for example, the negative emotion of fear may lead us to simply flee or escape danger, which serves for the purpose of survival. However, when imminent danger is not present, negative emotions may narrow our range of cognitive resources when we need them the most.  For example, you’re about to give an important presentation at work and are feeling terrified – the emotion of fear may lead us to focus narrowly on the task at hand, where are positive emotions may in fact help us to deliver a potentially more creative or socially inclusive presentation.

What are the implications of the Broaden and Build Theory for you?  By experiencing more positive emotions, you may find that you perform better at tasks, think more creatively and flexibly and build stronger social connections!!  Can you think of some ways you can increase your experience of positive emotions?  What makes you happy/excited/interested?  How can you harness these experiences to help you excel?

References

Fredrickson, B.  (2001).  The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology.  American Psychologist, 56(3), 218-226

Set Goals, not Resolutions

It’s the new year which means new year’s resolutions.  How many years have you found yourself setting resolution after resolution to lose weight, make more money, give up junk food etc, only to find that it’s February and you haven’t been to the gym in weeks, and have just eaten a chocolate brownie!!

Why is it that new year’s resolutions don’t work?  Simply put, they are often overly generalised or vague, and don’t have the specificity and planning which is needed to help us succeed.

My advice – set goals (and make them good ones!!).

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Here are some simple principles to put in to play which have been demonstrated to help people achieve their goals.

1)  Goals must be specific!!  Want to lose weight?  How much do you want to lose?  In what time frame do you want to achieve it?  How will you measure it?
Goals that are both specific and difficult lead to the highest performance (Locke, 1996).  Making a goal specific helps us direct our action clearly and makes us more likely to achieve a difficult goal.

2)  We need to be committed to our goals, particularly when they are difficult.  Our commitment to goals comes through our belief that the goal is important (Locke, 1996).  When setting your goals, reflect on how important you feel it is that you achieve it.  Did you set the goal yourself, or are you trying to please someone else?

3)  Self efficacy and our feeling of competence to achieve a goal fosters goal achievement.  Do you feel that you have the skills or abilities to achieve your goal?  If not, what will help you to feel more confident?  Do you need a mentor, or perhaps additional resources like materials or information.  The more empowered you feel, the more likely you are to achieve your goal!

4)  Set implementation intentions.  Implementation intentions are the small situational cues we set in line with our goals, which prompt us to take action.  For example, your goal is to spend one hour each day studying.  Your implementation intentions may include the exact time you plan on studying (6pm each night), where you will do it (the desk in your room, with the TV off), the materials you need to do it (notepad, textbook, highlighters).  Setting implementation intentions has been shown to increase goal attainment on difficult tasks (Gollwitzer, 1999).

5)  Write it down and share it with others!!  You’re much more likely to succeed if you put your goal in writing, and enlist the support of others by sharing it with them!!

I hope this has helped with a touch of motivation to start 2015!!  What are you goals for the new year?

References

Gollwitzer, P.M.  (1999).  Implementation intentions:  Simple effects of simple plans.  American Psychologist, 54(7), 493-503

Locke, E.  (1996).  Motivation through conscious goal setting.  Applied and Preventative Psychology, 5(2), 117-124

10 Simple Habits to Feel Happier

Want to feel happier?  A study by the University of Hertfordshire identified 10 habits proven to make people happier and examined how frequently people perform those habits.
Here are the ten habits!   Why not give them a try?
  • Giving: do things for others
  • Relating: connect with people
  • Exercising: take care of your body
  • Appreciating: notice the world around
  • Trying out: keep learning new things
  • Direction: have goals to look forward to
  • Resilience: find ways to bounce back
  • Emotion: take a positive approach
  • Acceptance: be comfortable with who you are
  • Meaning: be part of something bigger

 

The survey showed that Self Acceptance may have a strong link to happiness and life satisfaction, but that people often don’t put it into practice.  The authors of the study gave the following tips to help increase your self acceptance.
  • Be as kind to yourself as you are to others. See your mistakes as opportunities to learn. Notice things you do well, however small
  • Ask a trusted friend or colleague to tell you what your strengths are or what they value about you
  • Spend some quiet time by yourself. Tune in to how you’re feeling inside and try to be at peace with who you are.

Living in Green Spaces Improves Mental Health

Ever wondered why you feel happier when you’re in nice surroundings?

A new study by Alcock, White, Wheeler, Fleming and Depledge (2014) examined the long term effects of living in green areas on mental health.
The study followed 1000 participants over five years.  Results showed that the participants who relocated to less green areas, showed significantly worse mental health in the year following the move!!  However, people who moved to greener areas felt an immediate improvement in mental health and those effects were sustained!!
Considering relocating?  Alcock et al, (2014) found that the positive mental health benefits of living in a greener space could be measured for up to three years!!Are you like me and live in an apartment in the inner city?  More reason than ever to get out in the sunshine for a daily walk!!
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Reading literary fiction can enhance your social skills

Looking to increase your social skills?  Put down that copy of Twilight/50 Shades of Grey/whatever random Dan Brown novel immediately, and pick up some Salinger, Joyce, Austin or Carver!!  It may help you to better understand and identify the emotions of others and improve your interpersonal relationships!

A study by Kidd and Castano (2013) measured the effects of reading literary fiction on increasing social skills, or “theory of mind skills.”Theory of Mind skills include the ability to identify and understand the emotional states of others.  Such skills help us to build interpersonal relationships.

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The authors state “The capacity to identify and understand others’ subjective states is one of the most stunning products of human evolution. It allows successful navigation of complex social relationships and helps to support the empathic responses that maintain them. Deficits in this set of abilities, commonly referred to as Theory of Mind (ToM), are associated with psychopathologies marked by interpersonal difficulties. Even when the ability is intact, disengagement of ToM has been linked to the breakdown of positive interpersonal and intergroup relationships”

The authors conducted five experiments which compared reading a few pages of literary fiction, against non-fiction or popular fiction.  The results showed that the readers of literary fiction passages vs the other groups, displayed  the immediate ability to discern people’s emotions from pictures of their faces.

More reason than ever to burn your Twilight novels!!

What are some of your favourite literary fiction novels?

Here are a few of mine!!