Often in conversations, whether it be at work or at home, we’re often so busy trying to get our own perspectives across, that we don’t really listen to the other person.
Instead of really engaging in dialogue where ideas are exchanged, it’s easy to hold onto our own point of view so tightly that we instead talk at the other person, instead of to them.
When we go into a discussion assuming our perspective is the right one, this can close us off from other possibilities, and prevent us from broadening our perspective through real conversation.
Even the best of listeners can be terrible listeners at times!!
Do you want to become a better listener? Try this simple tip…
In their new book, ‘Simple Habits for Complex Times” by Jennifer Garvey Berger and Keith Johnston, the authors suggest that as you enter a conversation, to ask yourself the following question: “What can I learn from this person?”
Why not try it the next time you receive feedback from your boss at work, or the next time you’re in an argument with your partner or friend. By asking yourself this question, you will be forced to really listen to the other person’s perspective, and to better understand their point of view and what it is they’re actually trying to tell you. Once you learn to hold your own perspective a little less tightly and really listen, you may even learn something!!
Would you try this? Do you have any tips for being a better listener?
